As I mention in my writing from time to time, knowledge is often not the missing element in us getting in action toward achieving our goals. It is helpful to learn new concepts, or be reminded of what we already know, but the true culprit is almost always the inspiration and inclination to be straight with ourselves about what is holding us back from acting on our insights. Think of any area of your career or life that is not going as well as you would like it and do an honest assessment of yourself against the habits I describe to determine which apply to you. We all know the theory behind what it takes to be successful and fulfilled, but we rarely take a hard look at ourselves to see why we don’t actually operate that way. That is what this episode is about.
The most common factor that derails our efforts to pursue our goals or cultivate fulfilling relationships, personally and professionally, is that we let our "unmet expectations" get the best of us. We set out to achieve a certain goal and we put a great deal of effort into making it happen, and at some point we give up because we are disappointed with the lack of progress we "should" have been making. We start a relationship that we have always dreamed of and at some point decide that our partner seems to be giving less and taking more, and so we start to do the same. In this episode, I discuss the root cause of why and how we tend to sabotage ourselves in these ways and offer a simple solution that can be practiced immediately.